The Marriage Talk

February 5, 2010

Over the two week vacation I learned a lot. I learned why Islamic Nation does not celebrate Easter, What marriages are unlawful by the Qu'ran, How to make Kosma and a lot in addition. What stuck closest to me is something I learned from my host mother. I explained to her how the women in my family are not married. I explained to her that it is nothing we planned it has just turned out this way over the last several decades, generations. I also made it clear to her that someday I want to be a wife but I do not know how for the fact that I lack an example. The society I come from works in ways so that women can survive with out men and the women in my family have been living accordingly: A generational Curse I call it. Next, I asked her if she could teach me. She replied to say that she could not teach me such a thing: how to become a wife but, "STAYING a wife was simple." She told me two things, she told me to never forget them; 1) You will not meet your husband until 2-3 after the honeymoon so giving up before then would be unfair. 2) "Birakmazsin" You do not let go. She then reassured me that I have nothing to worry about becoming a wife but there are things I need to learn to stay one. "Learn to be commentless sometimes, let him have the last word chances are he knows you're right." She told me she can smell my potential thru my skin... But will he?